It has been a while since I have blogged, and I put that down to the fact that I’ve been building my resilience.
I was in hospital with my son the other night and it was this tweet from AnneMarie that got me thinking about resilience:
She was so right, all the things that had been happening lately were definitely teaching me and my family resilience.
Resilience started popping out at me everywhere. It was in the newspaper with an article about John Kirwan wanting it to be taught in schools and it was dropping into my twitter feed.
And it started me thinking. For the last few months I had started to feel like everything was going wrong. Why was I feeling that way and what had really changed? I am no stranger to adversity and change, but something was different and I wasn’t coping.
I then remembered a friend of mine telling me (many years ago) that I always got what I wanted in the end, that something always came along. She couldn’t understand why I was so lucky. And I thought to myself it isn’t luck, it’s goal setting and planning, and learning from mistakes.
So to get back to here and now. That was what was wrong. I’d lost my mojo, my way forward. I’d forgotten that I need to get back up and plan for the future and set those goals. I’ve reassessed, planned and worked out a way forward and of course everything looks a lot better.
But the real question is, how do we teach our students this. My own children, bless them, have resilience in spades. We don’t hide things from them or try and protect them from the truth. We go through our roller coaster life together.
I think we need to talk to students about the good and the bad. Help them plan for things and have contingency plans. Teach them how to get through adversity and look forward. How to set goals and how to measure how they are doing. Be good role models and be there for them.
I certainly don’t have all the answers of how you implement this in a classroom, but I think the biggest thing is to be there and available and actually know your students. In the past I’ve not really thought about the importance of goal setting for students, but my own experience now tells me it’s something I shouldn’t just be paying lip service to.
Thank goodness for the holidays, giving me the time to stop, think and evaluate.